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Be careful with your heroes: Don't put any of them on a pedestal
quipped American writer F. Scott Fitzgerald. The ultimate tragedy, is the vast majority of modern hero- worshipers in the Western world who revere false heroes. So much so, that hero is one of the most misused words in English language.
As a matter of course hero today is mostly applied to people who do well in sports or in financial world or in show business and have gotten a lot of publicity. Unfortunately, the modern American hero is somebody whom we adore, respect, worship, or idolize for all the wrong reasons. With this in mind, it's the best to be careful with your heroes. Don't put any of them on a pedestal. After all, no one- even a true hero- deserves to be there.
Granted, there is nothing anything basically wrong when we admire celebrities of sports and popular culture, such as Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky, Oprah Winfrey, Jerry Seinfield, David Letterman, Mick Jagger, and Celine Dion. These people have been creative and extremely successful in their own right. Nevertheless, spending too much time and energy that could be used in attaining significant accomplishments ourselves.
The core matter is that there seems to be a totally unwarranted, yet broadly accepted belief by the public that modern heroes are larger than life. Given enough time, however, most sports celebrities, movie stars, singers, and politicians end up displaying behavior that astonishes even those who have looked up to them. On the extreme are those pop idols with character flaws so serious that they would make the Devil proud.
Another dark side of modern hero- worshipers is that most live their lives vicariously through their false heroes. If you are living vicariously through a false hero such as a rock star, what does this say about your own character? Shallow, or even deficient, wouldn't you say? Undoubtedly, you are telling yourself that you are not good enough yourself as a human being- not proud of your own accomplishments in life, in other words. Living vicariously through gurus, sports celebrities, and movie stars limits you from creating the life that you want.
There is one thing of which you can be certain. A true hero does not live vicariously through someone that he or she admires. So what constitutes a true hero? Hungarian revolutionary leader Lajos Kossuth concluded,
Based on this measure, true heroes know how to steer past major obstacles, jump over some more, and blow up even more as they proceed toward their own definition of success. Even so, a true hero is not infallible. He makes mistakes. He sometime falters. He may even stop accomplishing for a period of time but he never gives up to make this world a better place to live.
The true heroes are those people who have overcome hardship and made a significant contribution to this world are never given any publicity by the media. For example, Father Bob McCahill rides his run- down bicycle through the streets of Bangladesh helping the sick who are too poor to visit a hospital. Individuals such as Father McCahill who work with the street people of this world are doing incredible work. Unfortunately, we seldom, if ever, hear or read about them in the media. These people would make much better role models for the youth and adults alike than today's spoiled sports celebrities and movie stars.
All told, even the most accomplished and well- mannered heroes shouldn't be idolized. It's inspiring and constructive and rewarding to use them as role models- but don't live vicariously through them. They have their insecurities and they have their problems.
No human being is worthy of excess esteem from others. Truly self confident individuals can admire the accomplishments and success of another person, but they don't think anyone is superior to them. They also know that the belief in the superiority of heroes can limit their own power to attain what they want out of life.
Epictetus reflects on meetings
Epictetus (35 AD- 135 AD) was born a slave and became one of the great philosopher of Rome. He was expelled from the city in 94 A.D. and it was while in exile that he came up with a way of teaching his followers. Here is an extract from his Art of Living.
"Two things may happen when we meet someone: either we become friends or we try to convince that person to accept our beliefs. The same thing happens when a hot coal meets another piece of coal: it either shares its fire with it or is overwhelmed by other's size and is extinguished.
All the Good Things
Sister Helen Mrosla
He was in the first third grade class I taught at Saint Mary's School in Morris, Minnesota. All thirty four of my students were dear to me, but Mark Eklund was one in a million. Very neat in appearance, he had that happy-to-be- alive attitude that made even his occasional mischievous delightful.
Just a kid with cerebral palsy
I was asked to be a counselor in a junior high camp. Everybody ought to be a counselor in a junior high camp- just once. A junior high kid's concept of a good time is picking on people. And in this particular case, at this particular camp, there was a little boy who was suffering from cerebral palsy. His name was Billy. And they picked on him.
Thanksgiving Day editorial in the newspaper told of a school teacher who asked her first graders to draw a picture of something they were thankful for. She thought of how little these children from poor neighborhoods actually had to be thankful for. But she knew that most of them would draw pictures of turkeys on tables with food. The teacher was taken aback with the picture Douglas handed in.. a simple childishly drawn hand.
But whose hands? This class was captivated by the abstract image. "I think it must be the hand of God that brings us food," said one child. "A farmer," said another, "because he grows the turkeys." Finally when the others were back at work the teacher bent over Douglas' desk and asked whose hand it was. "It's your hand, Teacher," he mumbled.
She recalled that frequently at recess she had taken Douglas, a scrubby forlorn child, by the hand. She often did that with the children. But it meant so much to Douglas. Perhaps this was everyone's Thanksgiving, not for the material things given to us but for the chance, in whatever small way, to give to others.
Benevolence/ Attitude/ Awareness/ Helping Hands/ ThanksGiving
Luckily, you're not trying to be Batman. But all too often you and I act like we are. We think we always have to be perfect. One failure and it's all over. But you're not Batman. You can fail and quit and learn. In fact, that's the only way you can learn.
—Eric Barker, (resource) Barking Up the Wrong Tree