Where to look for chances
Each person acquires their own character, but their official roles are designated by chance.
You should invite some to your table because they are deserving, others because they may come to deserve it.
— Seneca, Moral Letters, 47.15b Ryan Holiday, The 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living
It gives us a feeling of control. Marshal Goldsmith explains: People who believe they can succeed see opportunities, where others see threats. They are not afraid of uncertainty or ambiguity, they embrace it. They take more risks and achieve greater returns. Given the choice, they bet on themselves. Successful people have a high "internal locus of control." In other words, they do not feel like victims of fate. They see their success as a function of their own motivation and ability — not luck, random chance, or fate. They carry this belief even when luck does play a crucial role in success.
— Marshal Goldsmith(resource) Eric Barker, Barking Up the Wrong Tree
Instead of criticizing someone's success: why not learn something valuable from it?
Ernie Zelinsky, 101 Really Important Things You Already Know but keep forgetting
It's interesting and somewhat dismaying how many people will look up to anyone who wins a multi million- dollar lottery- but will deride anyone who has worked either hard or smart to attain prosperity and real success. Jules Renard put this in proper perspective, however
[Javits Wild] When he was in the country, he always asked the people he chanced to meet what "normal life" was like, because he had forgotten. The answers varied, and he gradually came to realize that, even when he was surrounded by other people, he was absolutely alone in the world. He decided to draw up a list of what constituted normal attitudes and behavior, based on what people did rather than on what they said.
- Normal is anything that makes us forget who we are and what we want; that way we can work in order to produce, reproduce, and earn money.
- Setting out rules for waging war (the Geneva Convention).
- Spending years studying at university only to find at the end of it all that you're unemployable.