Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.
— John F. Kennedy
Above all, keep a close watch on this- that you are never so tied to your former acquaintances and friends that you are pulled down to their level. If you don't, you'll be ruined... You must choose whether to be loved by these friends and remain the same person, or to become a better person at the cost of those friends... if you try to have it both ways you will neither make progress nor keep what you once had.
— Epictetus, Discourses, 4.2.1; 4.5, (resource) The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom
Ask, Seek, and Knock
7 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.
9 “Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
When you want to persuade, don't give orders; give options.
Don't tell; ask and guide.
—Eric Barker, Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science behind why everything you know about success is (mostly) wrong