Where to look when you… are looking for honesty
Nice people are often not good people and good people are often not nice people
Ernie Zelinsky, 101 Really Important Things You Already Know but keep forgetting
We live in a culture in which a nice person is considered tantamount to being good person. The result is that many nice people are mistaken for fine human beings, when in fact, they haven't earn this distinction due to their serious character defects. On the other hand, many really good people are mistaken for having serious character defects just because they aren't the nicest people around. So what makes a good person?
Yes, getting your wish would have been so nice. But isn't that exactly why pleasure trips us up? Instead, see if these things might be even nicer — a great soul, freedom, honesty, kindness, saintliness. For there is nothing so pleasing as wisdom itself, when you consider how sure-footed and effortless the works of understanding and knowledge are.
— Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 5.9 (resource), Ryan Holiday, The 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living