Where to look when… you are seeking happiness
We need to stop thinking the world is fair. The lesson from cases of people both keeping and losing their jobs is that as long as you keep your boss or bosses happy, performance really does not matter that much and, by contrast, if you upset them, performance won't save you.
— Jeffrey Pfeffer, Power: Why Some People Have it and Other's Don't
This is the true athlete- the person in rigorous training against false impressions. Remain firm, you who suffer don't be kidnapped by your impressions! The struggle is great, the task is divine- to gain mastery, freedom, happiness, and tranquility.
—Epictetus, Discourses, 2.18.27-28
Keep this thought at the ready at daybreak, and through the day and night - there is only one path to happiness, and that is in giving up all outside of your sphere of choice, regarding nothing else as your possession, surrendering all else to God and Fortune.
—Epictetus, Discourses, 4.4.39—
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she did and she had a wonderful day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "H-M-M," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." So she did and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said. "Today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail." So she did and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head....
"YEAH!" she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!"
How happy you are depends on whether you are willing to be happy. Happiness will elude you as long as you are thinking and doing what's wrong for you. And it will come easily when you are thinking and doing what's right for you. Above all, ensure that you don't get conned into believing happiness is what someone else deems it to be.
~ Ernie Zelinski