Where to look when you need meaningful experience
Here's a way to think about what the masses regard as being 'good' things. If you would first start by setting your mind upon things that are unquestionably good- wisdom, self-control, justice, courage- with this preconception you'll no longer be able to listen to the popular refrain that there are too many good things to experience in a lifetime.
—Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 5.12 (resource), Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic
Atreus: Who would reject the flood of fortune's gifts?
Thyestes: Anyone who has experienced how easily they flow back.
—Seneca, Thyestes, 536 (resource), Ryan Holiday, The 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living
I had learned, from years of experience with men,
that when a man really DESIRES a thing so deeply
that he is willing to stake his entire future on a single turn of the wheel in order to get it,
he is sure to win.
— Thomas Edison, (resource) Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich: The 21st Century Edition
[Javits Wild] When he was in the country, he always asked the people he chanced to meet what "normal life" was like, because he had forgotten. The answers varied, and he gradually came to realize that, even when he was surrounded by other people, he was absolutely alone in the world. He decided to draw up a list of what constituted normal attitudes and behavior, based on what people did rather than on what they said.
- Normal is anything that makes us forget who we are and what we want; that way we can work in order to produce, reproduce, and earn money.
- Setting out rules for waging war (the Geneva Convention).
- Spending years studying at university only to find at the end of it all that you're unemployable.
In object-referral we also feel an intense need to control things, and the need for external power. The need for approval, the need to control things, the need for external power are needs based on fear. This kind of power is not the power of pure potentiality, or the power of the Self, or real power. When we experience the power of the Self, there is an absence of fear, there is no compulsion to control, and no struggle for approval or external power.
(resource)Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success