"People report being happier when they are with friends than when they're with a spouse or child,"


A Good friend is much cheaper than therapy- and ten times as helpful
Ernie Zelinsky, 101 Really Important Things You Already Know, But Keep Forgetting: How to Make Your Life More Enjoyable Day-by-Day, Year-by-Year

according to research cited in a recent cover story in Psychology Today magazine. This indeed, is something to ponder seriously. To repeat, people actually experience greater joy while spending time with their friends than while spending time with their children or their mates. This should give you an idea of the value of friendship.

Interestingly, friendship is one of the most researched subjects on the Internet. This indicates that millions of people are interested in creating new friendships and enhancing the old ones. Given how important friendship is in our lives, have you ever noticed how little has been written on how to handle money to the number or books on how to create and maintain great friends.

Yet in many ways friendship is much more valuable to us than money. Indeed, our human interactions, particularly those with close friends, provide most of the joys or disappointments we have in life. It follows that you can't experience real success in life unless you have real friends.

Taking into account that passing time with friends provides us with so much joy and happiness, the question you have to ask yourself is, "Do I have enough close friends?" According to a study reported in the June 2006 issue of American Socioligical Review, American adults, who shocked pollster in 1985 when they said they had only three close friends, said that they had just two in 2006. Moreover, the number who said that they have no one to discuss important matters with has doubled to one in four. The study found that men and women of every race, age, and education level reported fewer intimate friends than a similar survey indicated in 1985.

Unfortunately, the modern work world makes our individual lives busier and more fragmented. Thus, many people neglect to devote time to making close friends.

"Friendships seems the last thing that anyone's getting to."

says Jan Yager, an American sociologist and author of several books on friendship.

Yager adds

"Friendship is not something that you get to when everything else in your life is taken care of. It's important relationships even after the school years for emotional health, for career development, for physical well being."

Great friendships are important for creating for creating a new sense of community that translates into social, emotional, and physical well-being. Several research studies conclude that people who have intimate relationships with others live happier, healthier, and longer.

Friendship should be a universal and all encompassing topic for each and every one of us. Companionship is essential to full and rich life. It ranks right up there with fulfilling work and good health. Many individuals have discovered that a good friend is much cheaper than therapy- and ten times as helpful!

People in our society likely do not speak often about their yearning for friendship, as important as it is, because they do not want to appear needy and desperate. Not many people care to admit how lonely they are or can be at times in their lives. Surveys reveal that loneliness is one of the biggest problems humans face. To many people, it is the biggest.

Of this you should be certain:

Life can be a really lonely experience without great friends. Above all, great friends can provide you with things that you can't. The reverse is also true.


Plautus, the Roman playwright whose works influenced Shakespeare and Moliere, proclaimed,

"Your wealth is where your friends are."

Put another way, the more people who truly care whether you get up in the morning, the richer you feel. You will find this to be true whether you are wealthy or broke. Taking into account the importance of friendship in our lives, the richest person in this world is the one with the most real friends- and not the one with the most money.



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