Fate is that thing we cannot avoid. It comes for us despite how we try to run from it. Destiny, on the other hand, is the thing that we must chase, what we must bring to fruition. It's what we strive toward and make true. When bad things happen, the idea of fate make us feel better, whereas taking the time to consider eulogy values help us think more about destiny. Success doesn't come from shrugging off the bad as unchangeable and saying things are already "meant to be," it's the result of chasing the good and writing our own future.

Less fate, more destiny.

—Howard Suber, UCLA Professor (Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science behind why everything you know about success is (mostly) wrong)