Your Choice, Your Life
Bryan Tracy, The 100 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Business Success
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You are always free to choose. In the long run, no one forces you to think, feel, or behave the way you do. Rather, you choose your emotions and your behaviors by the way you choose to think about the world around you and about what is happening to you.
Dr. Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania calls this your way of reacting your "explanatory style." It is the way that you interpret or explain things to yourself. It is the critical determinant of everything you become.
The good news is that your explanatory style is learned. This means that it can be unlearned as well. Your way of explaining things to yourself is under your control. You can interpret your experiences in such a way that you feel happy and optimistic rather than angry or frustrated. You can such a way that your responses are constructive and effective. You are always free to choose.
Your thoughts and feelings are continually changing. They are quickly affected by the events around you. For example, when you receive a piece of good news, your attitude immediately brightens and you feel more positive toward everyone and everything. If, on the other hand, you unexpectedly receive some bad news, you can immediately become upset, angry, and short- tempered, even if the news is inaccurate or untrue. It is the way you interpret the event to yourself that determines how you react.